Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Ephesians 5:24
I’m going out on a limb here, but I think many despise a lot of churches, because we despise the plan of God. Mind you, many men have carried the Word of God wrongfully and created such hatred for it that even women and children hate hearing it. If you are a student of the Bible you know that there are certain passages which speak to the role men and women have. In God’s order, God holds man accountable for the leadership and teaching of the home. The woman supports the man, lends her wisdom to the raising of the family and teaches all things of God to the coming generation.
Where we see the breakdown begins with the husband. Men, we are taught to live with our wives with understanding. However, this takes a great deal of work and study we often don’t want to do. For that reason we have abandoned God’s command to follow human ways of doing things. When we read the book of Esther we see that king Ahasuerus order Queen Vashti to parade herself in front of other visiting dignitaries. When she refused she was dethroned at the recommendation of wise men of the kingdom. Their reasoning was simple. If the women of kingdom hear that the queen can get away with this then it will cause them to disobey their husbands too. Why then did Queen Vashti refuse? Her husband and all the dignitaries were drunk.
That isn’t the only issue we see in human history. Have you ever heard the words, “Rule of thumb”? It was an old English law carried into America that a woman could only be beaten by her husband with a stick no bigger that the thickness of his thumb. Don’t believe me? Look it up! In other words we don’t want to work on relationship, instead we demand submissiveness, or take matters in hand.
Failure in the family is on both fronts. I focused on the man today, but the Lord’s willing, I will work on the other side tomorrow. I want us all to consider one word, “Love.” Love in its purest form is found in 1 Corinthians 13. When we say we love someone, we can’t un-love them. However, love is relational. If you truly over someone you will see the relation between the two grow. Jesus said that we are to love one another. He provided the greatest love to us by dying for us. Now is the time to show that kind of love to our wives and children.